Thursday, September 17, 2015

Tyra and Chrissy Sound Off About Infertility

I stumbled upon this clip from Tyra Banks' new show 'The FABLife' and was brought to tears. 
 My respect for Tyra and Chrissy grew a lot after I saw this video. 
It's not easy to put fertility struggles (past or present) out in the open, because it also opens you up to new types of hurtful comments and scrutiny. 
When I say that [hurtful comments and scrutiny], I get a lot of push back.
"Well I know people who have IF and they have never had hurtful comments."
I'm really glad.
But I have.
And 98% of the women with infertility that I interact with [and there are a lot. I am involved in an international online support group] have as well.
We have been told "Get over it."
"Kids are expensive anyway, you're lucky you don't have any."
"You must be doing something wrong."
"If you are sad about infertility it means you don't love God."
"I don't care if my pregnancy is hard for you, it'll teach you a lesson."
"If God wanted you to be a mom you would be."
"Fertility treatments are a sin. You're not going to do IVF are you?"
It's all ignorance.
Most of the time people don't mean to hurt you, but one cares how you meant it.
We care what you said.
We educate ourselves on the proper etiquette when interacting with cancer patients, amputees, disabled people, and different races.
Why then, do you get a pass for one of the most common diseases of all?
Infertility is a disease, and together we can remove the shame of it.

It's amazing to see so many high profile people speak out about this disease. 
Because it is a disease. 
Bravo ladies.

Sunday, September 6, 2015

Another Update | Actual Consistency....?

First of all:
I haven't been blogging much because my keyboard was broken.
You think 'i's and 'k's are important?
You have NO idea until those buttons no longer function.
How do you type without an 'i' or 'k'?!
You copy and paste, that's how.
And yes, it's as much of a pain in the BUTT as it sounds.
So that, my friends, is why this blog has been dead.
How did the keyboard break, you might ask?
Let's just say that it involves me being home alone, a can of Dr. Pepper, and paint.

Luckily super Tyler bought a new keyboard and replaced the old one!
So now we can type without ctrl+shift+v!!!


this. This. THIS.
Newly discovered and instantly loved.
Jim Beam Honey Bourbon.
We love Bourbon anyway, but who knew that adding some honey to it would make it magic?
Legit magic.
Pretty sure this means unicorns are real.

Last but not least, the third 'update';
I have no idea when we will be in the house.
I have given up on a timeline.
I *think* it will be sometime in the next couple weeks but I have thought that before.
Several times, in fact.
I have decided to give up on a time line or 'target date'.
All those do is stress you out and discourage you.
I'm mostly anxious to get moved because I'd like to finally start producing some art at a consistent rate, as well as post photos of our progress.
I've been taking them, but I haven't been good about posting them
I'm getting burnt out, we both are, but we are trying to remember that we are so close and in the end we can't take it with us anyway.
Do what you can and know it's ok!

That about wraps up this post. 
I'm hoping to blog more consistently from now on.
I have some reviews of hair prodcuts coming soon.
My dear friend, Emily (of Emily Only Prettier) has given me some products to review for her and I'm excited to share with those interested whether or not they are worth the purchase.

Until then, stay classy and avoid situations with paint, Dr Pepper, and laptops.